My husband's girlfriend just had a baby?

A couple of weeks ago, I found out my husband was cheating by way of seeing them have sex. I left the house with my 5 yr old son before he got home from work. He was totally ok with this and we are getting a divorce. I just found out that my husband had been cheating on me for 2 YEARS! And his “girl friend” just had their baby. I just had OUR baby on Dec 15th, AFTER I found out that he was cheating. What should I DO??? I am now the single mom of an infant and 5 year old. And his wife just had a healthy little boy name Terrell Owen, making it horrible, our kids have the SAME Last name!! Terrell Owen Rossman and Landon Joel Rossman, Mikaeyla Jade Rossman. Their baby took my husbands last name.





WHAT SHOULD I DO???





* I didn't even know she was pregnant!!!!*

My husband's girlfriend just had a baby?
Kelsi!!! OMG!!! What a jerk!! Well... I would make sure he pays (finacially) for your two children. I know you are hurting inside, but you will be fine. You are a wonderful person and will find that special someone when you least expect it. (if not drop me a line and I know this wonderful single guy whos a friend of hubbys and mine... lol ) Trying for a smile :) This is difficult with Landon and Mikaeyla involved. Not so much with your baby girl... she isn't attached to daddy. But poor Landon. Is he planning on being involved in his life? This is going to weigh hard on this little boy for years to come. I feel so bad for him... Let me know if I can do anything. Drop me a line... Merry Christmas Kelsi.





Lyn
Reply:See a lawyer right away. If you can not afford a lawyer, look for free legal service organizations. You need to be sure that you get as much financial support as you can from your loving husband.
Reply:If I were U I'd SHOOT him!!!
Reply:Honestly the first step is admitting to yourself that it's over. He's not the type of man you want to be with (unless you don't mind sharing). Secondly you have to vow that your first priority is your children. Next go through with the divorce proceedings, making sure you and your children get taken care of. Don't hold hate in your heart the other woman's child.Don't keep your kids from their father(try your best to keep your problems from getting in the way of your parenting). Also try to be civil(if it helps give yourself one conversation with your ex to tell him how much of a low down dirty piece of scum he is, and then move on to keeping it strictly about the kids). Last but most importantly move on with your life, understand that his actions are no reflection on the type of woman or mother you are (he just sucks, and he's "her" problem now).





I wish you the best, and I'm sorry he did this to you.
Reply:Get a divorce, get alimony and child support on his *** you shouldnt have left the house though because legally you are his wife and you have 2 kids together, so that is your kids house, not hers. Men like that are just a waste of testosterone. This same situation happened to my mom. My dad was 40 and she was 19, now they have two girls together, but he lost 3 of his kids. He only comes by to pick up my sister and brother on Saturdays, for 3-4 hours. He is starting to regret it though, he has no contact with his only two grandsons (my boys) and he tells his brother that he made a big mistake in leaving his family for someone who wasnt worth it (my mom talks to my uncle occasionally). My mom got remarried to a great man and treats her really good. You will too. God will deal with them.
Reply:Lawyer up, get a divorce, and sue them both....they may not pay up, but it'll make their life a living hell.
Reply:Um pull a Lorena Bobbit on him? If my wife caught me cheating she sure would. Dump him a move on you deserve better than this pond scum of an ex.
Reply:GET REVENGE!!! IF NOTHING ELSE.
Reply:You shouldnt hold it againts the baby for having the same last name as your kids. I would just let it go and move forward with your life. Be strong for your 5 year old and infant. Im not saying it will be easy but they need you. Congratulations on your baby. Hope the best for your family %26amp; happy holiday.
Reply:get on Child support on his *** and also all the Paine and Harri you are going thought faille all that on him
Reply:to be truthful there is nothing that you can do just be the respectful lady that you are and allow your children to know that baby also !! when they all grow up they will love you even more for that please don't try to play your children against "daddy" either!! that will only hurt them in the long run
Reply:Move on with your life...that's all you can do, just be strong and know that you did nothing wrong..
Reply:there is not much you can really do. just move on with your life, and try and be strong for the kids. plus the baby they had does deserve a dad.. sorry to say i know its hard, but it is not that baby's fault either... he didn't ask to be born
Reply:Divorce his a** and go after him for every penny you can. The fact that he was cheating only adds to the ammo you have against him. You might also want to have the children (and you of course) take your maiden name.
Reply:First of all congratulations on your new baby.. secondly, he is not worth the ground he walks on. Really, he would be better of dead for the way he treated you, you didn't deserve that at all and unfortunatley there are many men out there who do that. The best thing for you to do is to have nothing more to do with him, if he wants to see the kids then let him but he has nothing more to do with you at all.. and you are gonna move on girl and have a better life than he will, i can be sure of that.. just hand on and be strong cause the next couple of months are gonna be tough with a young baby and all i want to say about him is "What goes around, comes around."


Good luck to you and your children, i hope you have a good life because you deserve it. xx
Reply:i don't think there is much u can do unless u cange ur and ur kids name to ur madien name
Reply:You should stop discussing your situation online with the public, especially using real names(!)--so you do not disadvantage yourself legally. You should contact legal counsel to represent your children's and your interests in terms of the financial and legal dimensions of the divorce proceeding.





In terms of your own hurt and grief, you should find an appropriate counselor or clinical social worker to discuss these issues with. Contact your insurance company to find someone, or try the "Find a Social Worker" section of this website: www.naswdc.org.





I empathize with you and your kids. But be careful lest you let your anger damage your own and your family's interests by broadcasting your situation to the whole world.
Reply:If you haven't got a lawyer, go get one. And I would seriously consider moving back into the house...a friend of mine was in a similar situation and moved out and she lost out financially, because "she abandoned the marital dwelling." Kid you not. If it was me, I know my first instinct would be to move out too. but it may not be in your long term best interests.


I'm so sorry this happened to you....I don't know why people have to be so crazy mean sometimes.
Reply:First, you should never have posted your last name online (now any weirdo can try to reach you or your kids)...





Next, you said you were divorcing so proceed with that. Why is there anything more you need to do? That you discovered he has a kid by someone else doesn't change the fact that your and his relationship is over...looks like he's got 3 kids to support now, but your only concern should be the two you and he share.
Reply:Serve him with child support papers along with divorce papers.
Reply:What should you do? About what? You already told us you were planning on a divorce, so how does this change anything? You're a single mom. This isn't uncommon. Personally, I'd change my last name AND your children's last name, but that's just my opinion. What else were you wondering about exactly?
Reply:that is horrible. I am sorry. Get Alimony and child support from his unfaithfull ***.
Reply:Remember all men are pigs. If it really bothers you, you can legally have your children take on your maiden name. Go for it! They're your kids, you gave birth to them!
Reply:pray...and i will pray for you too!
Reply:I mean .. you can't do anything. You can only change your last name at this point, and not your children's. This situation sucks, I get that, but there the only way to change their last names would be with his permission, which you could get in the divorce, but it's unlikely.





As for him, you made the right choice in leaving. You deserve someone who honors you, and this man clearly didn't.





Best of luck.
Reply:File for child support immediately.
Reply:I would go straight to a lawyer good thing you have the new babies name now they can get a copy of the birth cert if he signed it he's screwed.





Peace of ****!
Reply:You take the S.O.B for everything he's got, sweetie! This is inexcusable, and now you have incontestable proof that he was having an affair. Get the best lawyer his money can buy and nail his ba*** to the wall! Congrats on the birth of your little one!
Reply:nothing you can do really but it would rule in your favour assets wise from the divorce as he was to blame, but there could be long term discomfort if your children go to the same school and the like if you live near each other, they are related like it or not, good luck in what lies ahead, remember it's no fault of the children
Reply:I'm sorry for you pain and the trouble you husband has created..... you have loss nothing by losing this jerk... he has shown no respect for you or your children.... glad you are divorcing... but at this point ... there is a child that does deserve the best......really all of them ... the child by the other women will need a last name and if you husband is the father .. why not... you will get on with your life and put this all behide you ... this child will have to deal with this the rest of his life....Good Luck to you all
Reply:Get revenge.





Go and get yourself pregnant to another man!

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