I lost my baby at 22 weeks and need help?

I lost my baby girl Jade Marie Flores at 22 weeks preg. I had what doctors call PROMM premature rupture of mucus membranes "unknown reasons" but Its been since september, 30, 2007 since it happened I lost her on a holy day SUNDAY.


all along i thought the baby was a boy. So when in the hospital I wanted to name her I named her Jade. I been sad because I had lost a baby in 2006 at 6 weeks pregnant. I been devestated because I have not been in work since this happened now I have to go back and I have no idea how to deal with everyone. My co workers tell me that everyone has been asking for me.

I lost my baby at 22 weeks and need help?
I'm very sorry to hear your news.I lost my baby at 20 weeks due to complications on the 9 Aug 07.Had to have my labour induced and give birth to a child we could never bring home.I really feel for you,as no mother should ever have to feel this way.


I havent been back to my job,either.The thought of going back to where I received the phone call to tell me of my baby's fate revolts me.


You will find a lot of people wont know what to say to you,and end up coming out with stupid things,ie:I know how you feel ,etc.When quite clearly they have no idea,but I truly think its because they dont know what to say.Others dont say anything about the baby,again because not sure what they should say.


Clearly if people are asking after you,they are just concerned.


Maybe on a coffee break,get your work mates around and explain what happened and how you feel about talking about your little girl.Make it clear to people that its either ok or not ok to talk about it with you.


You have got through this and you are strong.Anything ahead of you will be fine.Good luck for everything.Life does get brighter,Stay positive .xx
Reply:I would tell everyone to mind their own business.Also that you would not like to speak of anything to do with that subject since its a touchy subject.im sorry to hear about your loss.i can't even imagine how horrible that would be...take care:)
Reply:Sorry to hear about your loss :(
Reply:I am so sorry for your losses.


If you have any close friends or co-workers, call one of them before you return to work, and have him/her explain to everyone that you are hurting over your loss, and that they should not bother you with questions or by expressing their sympathy.





Jade is a beautiful name. I hurt for you.
Reply:i know your baby went 2 a better place and he or she is waiting 4 you when you go 2 heaven youll be able 2 reunite with him or her again same with my cousin mikey and my great grandfather i want 2 meet them sumday but thier in the crossroads waiting 4 me
Reply:Baby girl, It'll be alright. The pain will eventually fade. You will always remember the babies you lost. You will always think of them. You will remember when they should be going to kindergarten, When they might graduate high school. You will tell their brothers and sisters about them. You lost a child. not a pregnancy or a fetus. You are a good Mom. The pain will fade. Be strong. I will be thinking of you.
Reply:I am so sorry for your loss. Talk to your boss or a close friend, and ask them to ask everyone to not talk about it. I know it's hard, but people sometimes don't know how to show they care unless they say a supportive comment. Good luck on your first day back at work!
Reply:when people ask, politely say that you don't wish to talk about it.





I send my sympothies and i love the name, very beautiful
Reply:Maybe you should let your boss know what has happened to you, and that you are still grieving. They can make sure that your co-workers know not to ask you about it until you are ready to bring it up. I am very sorry for your loss.
Reply:Just explain everything as it is. If they don't believe you then get your doctor to write you a note. Spend time with family members/significant special to get this off your heart.
Reply:i'm sorry